These are somethings that I’ve heard over the last few years coming out. Granted I am not that huge on “I’m Gay,” to everyone and tend to keep this to myself. Saying this I wanted to go over a few things that I’ve heard in the last few years of coming out that kind of make me face palm. These are stereotype questions but, here are some of my answers to them.
1.) It must be awesome to never have to deal with a man….
This kind of baffled me. The thought of a man actually seems way easier than a women. For example, two of all makeup products, hair dryers, clothing and don’t’ forget messes cause you know… we all make messes. Oh, and don’t forget the wonderful PMS of each month and the whole getting into little arguments over every little thing…
2.) So who is the man in the relationship….
No one, that is the reason I am a lesbian!!! You did catch the part about me being a lesbian right!
3.) How do you guys have sex….?
If you don’t know the answer to this… I feel sorry for your girlfriend… very very sorry…
4.) When I say a guy is cute, and someone goes “I thought you were gay?!”
So you remember that cute dog I posted to you in a text or one of those silly meme pictures… yeah same difference… Just cause I said it was cute doesn’t mean I want to now date it take it home to meet my parents…
5.) How do you know your gay?
Big questions for you here. How do you know your straight!? hmm.
6.) Have you been with guys?
For me yes, yes I have and all the time I never enjoyed it… I would rather look at a girl see a girl touch a girl then be around a guy. Granted I have lots of guy friends… it does not mean I want to marry them, fuck them or do things with them.
7.) Since you’ve dated guys are you sure you haven’t just found the right one?
The fact that I find their… important part to be disgusting… I don’t’ think so… as I explain it to my male straight friends it would be like you fucking your best male friend… gross right or for girls vice vs.
8.) If you like girls that look like boys, why don’t you want to date boys?
Common…. seriously. Points to question above this one…
9.) But you’re so pretty…
Um, thank you… I didn’t realize that being a gay meant that I was now ugly.
10.) What do you have against dick!?
Nothing… in fact lesbians are big fans of the D. It might be the thing its attached to… or the fact its not plastic.
11.) I wish I were lesbian it would be so much easier…
This one has me, you wish you could be like me… except you forget all the hate crimes, bullying, the higher suicide rate cause I’m not accepted, discriminations, the possibly of being hurt, religious persecution, and having to come out every time you meet a new person, threats of being disowned by loved ones, and having to answer all the questions above over and over again.
These are just some of the questions that come my way. I find it harder sometimes being that I am considering a femme lesbian. Which means I am very girly… If you look at me most people assume I am straight. This makes the whole thing harder sometimes cause guys will hit one me, say things to me try to get my phone number when in the end… I don’t want to be with them. I want to marry a women. I want to be with a women. That is what is going to make me happy!